Showing posts with label writing memoir. Show all posts
Showing posts with label writing memoir. Show all posts

Tuesday, January 25, 2022

Book Coach and Editor Danielle Anderson Shares The Magic of Writing With Heart, a Book on the Craft of Writing Memoirs

 

The Magic of Writing with Heart 
by Danielle R. Anderson


Hello and welcome to the Focused on Story blog!

I am thrilled to welcome editor, author, memoir coach Danielle Anderson. We met through Danielle's FB group, Write Your Book--Share Your Story--Change the Word--Memoir Writing. Interacting with Danielle on Facebook, I see her heart for writing and for helping people. Plus, I believe Danielle is a life storytelling evangelist like me! 

Meet Danielle

Book coach and author
Danielle Anderson

Danielle Anderson is a memoir coach and editor who runs her business--and life--with heart. She is the proud and passionate founder of Ink Worthy Books, a cover-to-cover editorial and publication services company where she leads a team of talented, heart-driven women who believe everyone has a story worth telling, and every story has the power to make the world a better place.

Outside of her business, words continue to color her life, and she embraces them in all shapes and sizes: music, books, movies, art, and her own writing. When she’s not busy daftly maneuvering the wonderfully sedentary world of writing, Danielle thrives on staying active. You can find her making magic with her four kids, traveling, kickboxing, exploring the parks and river valley near her home in Minnesota, laughing at her own jokes, or taking cat naps in the sun with her furry feline friend Layla.

Why Did Danielle Pen The Magic of Writing with Heart?

I recently wrote my first book, but it wasn’t something I had planned to do. You see, I’m a book coach, and my days are delightfully full with helping others write their books. The handy “I’m too busy with my clients’ books” excuse tumbles from my mouth as easily as water over the falls when it comes to making time for my own writing projects. 

A heart-filled writer's craft book

Ironically, it was my work—the thing I saw as a barrier to my success—that helped me see that this book needed to be written. 

When we start our work together, I ask each of my clients to tell me WHY they want to write their book and explain what is motivating them to commit to the lengthy and arduous process of publishing a book. 

If I were to ask myself these questions, the answers would ring loud and clear: I love my work. I love being involved in the book-writing process. And above all, I love seeing books become instruments of change in this world. 

Knowing how much this means to me, surely I could make time to write a book that would further this mission. After all, I know firsthand the power of sharing your story. I see it every day.

Let me explain.

My son has a friend, a young man who is finding himself in a place unlike many of his peers. Alex has been looking back on his life and all that he’s experienced (which is a lot for such a young person), and he’s starting to question things. 

For possibly the first time in his life, he’s asking some hard questions, looking at what he’s been told to accept about this journey called life, and wondering WHY he should accept any of this as HIS truth. 

He’s learning that a 21-year-old standing on his own two feet with no parents in his life and no mentors means that this place is confusing, and maybe a bit scary too.

I’ve known this kid for nearly 10 years now, and I definitely have a soft spot for him. I told him to never hesitate to call or email me for anything. 

He recently emailed me about this confusing place. He doesn’t understand why he’s here, why he’s thinking these things. He doesn’t know whether this is okay or if something’s wrong with him. 

In response, I told him my story—I shared how I have always been someone to question the status quo and that it definitely doesn’t mean something’s wrong with him. But it’s also not an easy way to navigate life. After all, swimming upstream is hard work!

As I shared my experience, I told him that what he feels is absolutely a gift. I explained what I’ve learned along this particular journey—that if he can come to understand the human condition, how we are wired to operate from a biological and psychological perspective, how we’ve been so conditioned to blindly accept things as they are, then he’ll be just fine. 

And in the end, I told him that if he can look upon each day with love and gratitude, with a feeling of thankfulness that he has this amazing ability, then he’d eventually be able to see this as a gift, rather than feeling like he’s cursed.

He responded the next day and said that I was the only person to ever take the time to talk with him about this. He was so thankful I had.

Reading those words and hearing how he has been alone in this struggle broke my heart. But I also knew right then that this is exactly why I do the work that I do.

As a memoir coach, I spend my days helping people write their stories. 

And here’s the thing—we all have a story to tell. This doesn’t always look like a grand adventure or something so extraordinarily unique that we’ve never heard of anything like it. Nope. The stories that truly matter most are the ones found closest to the heart. Those experiences that have taught us how to be better humans, how to love ourselves and others, how to survive the darkest of nights. 

And when we’re able to share these things, magic happens.

Kids like Alex are able to feel less alone, less hopeless, less confused, less lost. Our readers and listeners feel understood, accepted, and part of something much bigger than those fears that chase us. 

Sharing our stories allows us to breathe life and love and light and hope into others’ lives, simply by bravely speaking our truth. That’s it! It’s not easy, but it’s simple, and it truly brings me so much joy to help writers with this process. 

Reading that email, Alex reminded me of the value of my place in this world, and I’m convinced he gave me as much as I gave him in that little email exchange. Imagine what an entire book can do.

If you’ve ever thought about sharing your story and want to learn to go deeper in your writing, check out my book The Magic of Writing with Heart: A year of prompts to grow your writing skills, build your confidence, and maximize your memoir

As you write to the prompts, you’ll see your writing transform from “words on a page” into something that makes this world a better place. Something you (and your heart) can be proud of. Something that can shine light on even the darkest day.

Click here to order Danielle's book on Amazon

Connect online with Danielle Anderson:

Click here to visit Danielle's website, Ink Worthy Books

Click here to access Danielle's Facebook group--Write Your Book--Share Your Story--Change the World--Memoir Writing.

Memoirs and More 

In The Magic of Writing with Heart, Danielle offers great advice in writing memoirs. She has taken the pressure off all those who are overwhelmed at the idea of writing their life story, believing they must write about birth to the present. Instead, Danielle explains in loving detail an alternate way to go about writing life stories. She "helps memoirists write about their lives in small snippets." 

With 366 writing prompts to spark memories that can be used every day, even one for Leap Year, a rich life story can be told by recording those life experiences that make up a life story. And no, the writer does not have to do one a day or even write the vignettes of their life in any particular order. I recommend this book for anyone who wants to tell their story but needs help in jogging their memories. Danielle offers the inspiration to life storytellers to actually sit down and write the story. 







Tuesday, January 21, 2020

5 Reasons Why Writing a Memoir is Harder to Write Than Fiction

5 Reasons Why Writing a Memoir is Harder to Write Than Fiction
5 Reasons Why Writing a Memoir is Harder to Write Than Fiction by J.Q. Rose

What is a memoir? A memoir is actually a slice of your life. If a pie is your entire life from birth on, then a memoir is just one piece out of the pie. That portion has one theme. For example, stories about the places you lived, your career, your travels, etc.

Let me count the reasons why writing a memoir is harder to write than fiction.

1. The hard part about writing a memoir is that it has to be true! You can't fudge that you have your Ph.D. and you were a professor at Harvard. No, that is fiction for most of us. In fiction, you can make up everything and anything and nobody cares if it's true. And in most stories, a reader has to suspend reality to go ahead and read it!

2. Reflecting on your life can be difficult, but freeing. Seeing your life through the lens of time helps us understand why things happen and puts a unique slant on situations or family members. Oh yes, many of us in fiction take great fun in making someone we hate a character in our story and then torment that character or even kill him off! But that is not the same pleasure as seeing your life in a completely different way--a new awareness. 

3. Telling the truth can be painful. Re-living the difficult times in your life through memories can bring up those long-hidden feelings inside you. But writing about those times can be cathartic. 

4. A memoir is based on memories and your memory of an event or situation may differ from others who witnessed it. This may cause some disagreement and hard feelings. But, since it is YOUR story, your memory wins out. Nobody argues with the author of a fictional story. 

5. You are the main character in this story. Trying to decide what part of your life you want to share with others can be the point when you wish to just give up on telling your story. Passion about leaving a legacy to your family is needed to forge on. "You are the author of your life. Don't let anyone else tell it." I hope that quote will inspire you to keep going.
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If you need inspiration to write your memoir, Your Words, Your Life Story can help you.
Check it out as a journal paperback book or as a guide in the eBook format. 

Your Words, Your Life Story: A Journal for Sharing Memories by J.Q. Rose
Now that you've read the book description, 
you may want to know more about the journal for you or as a gift for someone in your life. 
Click here to order the paperback journal.


Your Words, Your Life Story: A Guide to Sharing Memories
The content in the journal is available as an eBook, 
a Guide to readers on telling their life stories.
Click here to download the digital copy from your favorite online bookseller.
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For group support, click here to join us at the Facebook Support Group, 
Telling Your Life Story and Memoirs Circle. 
Jog your memory, tips on memoir, informational videos, and meet like-minded people like you.




Monday, April 22, 2019

Monday Memories--Easter 1976

Hello and welcome to the Focused on Story blog!
Monday Memories--Easter 1976
Today I'm beginning a new series--Monday Memories. You may know by now that I'm penning a memoir, a tiny slice of my life. I'm writing about the first year we were in the flower business, 1976. We purchased a shop in Fremont, Michigan in 1976 and moved from our home in Central Illinois to this charming West Michigan town where we knew no one. No family. No friends.

Yesterday was Easter bringing back my memories of that first Easter in the flower business. Ted and I were stressed since we had no experience in the flower business when we bought the shop. So we had no idea of what to expect. You can imagine our stress and anxiety dealing with the unknown.

Besides that, my father passed away in March making this time in my life one filled with sadness and loss. My mother was a strong woman, but I worried about her on this holiday.

Here's an excerpt from the book. Please join me in this Easter memory.

Easter 1976

The next morning I dressed Sara in her Easter outfit. She was so sweet in all her pink. A pang of guilt cut through me. I wished Mom could see her. How was she coping without Dad?
 A prick of sadness stabbed through my middle. How could I get through this first Easter without Dad? I took a few ragged breaths. I couldn’t go to church with red-rimmed eyes and a red nose. Get it together. You can do this. 
We left for church dreading wearing a happy face when I felt so sad inside. But how many people do go to church and pretend everything is alright?
We parked the car in the crowded church lot. Greetings of Happy Easter met us as we walked down the rows of vehicles and into the church. We dropped Sara off at the nursery and continued down the hallway to the sanctuary. The warm greetings and the happy faces lifted my spirit. I had been so wrapped up in my sorrow, I had forgotten today I could focus on the Easter message of Good News.
Easter Message
When we walked into the sanctuary, I stopped in my tracks in awe of the beauty ahead of me. The lilies in gold foil and cream bows lined the railings and the front of the church as in a heavenly garden. Their fragrance didn’t overpower me here in this huge room but instead empowered me. The brilliant sight ahead touched me. Perhaps it was a God moment. My heart flooded with joy and peace pushing out the sorrow and stress I had harbored inside.
When we sat down in the pew, I couldn’t stop staring at those lilies. The same ordinary lilies that had lived in our greenhouse for months had been transformed into a blessing for us and our congregation.
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Do you have an Easter memory you'd like to share with us? Are you writing a memoir or planning to write one? Please leave a comment below. 

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