This weekend my DH and I traveled to Central Michigan University where our 13 year old grandson and his Destination Imagination team competed in the State Finals. The team won the regionals last month and continued to work hard perfecting their presentation for the state judging. When I talked to him last Tuesday, I asked how the practices were going and he said, confidently, "We're ready!" He was sure they would "knock it out of the park."
Saturday night at the awards presentation, he and his team discovered they did not win the tournament or even place in the top three. Their time and work was not enough for thejudge to awad them the trophy. Talk about being rejected. Their enthusiasm and excitement was gone like a deflated balloon. Now they have to process what happened and move on.
Do you remember your first rejection? Was it from that cute boy in your class? an art/music contest?
The one I remember the most is when our high school junior class built a fantastic float for the homecoming parade. Three of us designed it and were in charge of the construction. We were so sure we'd win, but no, I believe the freshmen won that year. Now that really is the pits to have those freshmen win. Talk about rubbing salt in the wound.
I hope your first rejection wasn't from an editor, agent, publisher when you submitted your story for publication. I think all the rejections we receive as we grow up prepares us to have our writing rejected. It's not easy to take, but hopefully we have developed some tools to allow us to take it and move on.
I told my grandson that winning first place is not the most important thing. As time goes by, he'll discover he won a lot by participating on the team and competing. Of course at 13, that's not what you want to hear. In fact, at any age, rejection is hard to take.
As a writer, my work was rejected. But instead of burying my head and wallowing in self pity, I decided to work harder and write a better story or article.
If your work has not been accepted, please don't give up. Keep writing. We learn something with every experience. Just like my grandson, process it and move on. You're a winner when you sit down and write words on the page.
Tell us about the first rejection in your life. Did you learn from it? How do you accept a rejection of your work and move on? Leave a comment below. It may inspire someone to keep writing and working on their WIP. Thanks.
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Thursday, April 10--Paranormal and humorist author Gail Roughton takes a turn at the Seeds of Inspiration Spring Event. She tells us what inspires her stories, and there are many entertaining ones in her collection. Come back on Thursday, leave a comment to enter the drawing for her latest e-book, Vanished.
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